Pulling online
Want to know how to press the right buttons online? Read on.
Chat rooms
Virtual meat-markets, often dedicated to specialist interest (Kite-Flying-Singles/Unemployed But Attractive etc). Just log in, create a screen name that says something about you (Dufus21) and make a connection. Think of a scrolling transcript of a live zoo radio station, and you get the picture.
- Netiquette: If you're new to the chat room, it's often a good idea to 'lurk' (read, don't write) just to get an idea of the kind of conversation going on. Steaming in with an invitation for everyone to 'feel your love' is likely to receive a response involving the words 'off' and 'piss'.
- Upside: The chance to reinvent yourself.
- Downside: You could be talking to just anyone
Message boards
If chat rooms seem too frantic and confused, impose some order in your online love life by turning to the message boards. Here, you can take your time reading over threads from lonely hearts everywhere, plus you get a chance to consider anything before you post up - which beats just blurting it out.
- Netiquette: Message boards provide a great platform for debate, but keep the personal dissing to a minimum, especially if you're aiming to pull. Also remember that, unlike a chat room, anything you say could be up online for many months to follow.
- Upside: No need to be on speed to keep up.
- Downside: Can make the flirting process a bit drawn out.
The virtual billet doux, and perhaps the single most important means of 'love communication' there is. It's discreet, instant and intimate, and (sort of) confidential. The downside is you actually have to know someone special to get an email relationship going. You can't just email strangers and hope to strike lucky.
- Netiquette: Most people do away with letter-writing formalities, and just wade in with whatever they want to convey. Setting up a receipt-request (as proof that your email has been read) is considered, well. . .do the maths.
- Upside: The world is your oyster.
- Downside: Bit of a bummer if s/he lives on the other side of it.
Webcams
As technology evolves, so flirting online becomes more sophisticated and webcams are a case in point. Instead of just believing that you're chatting to a hot blonde or a Latin lothario, you'll actually be able to see that bunch of 14-year-old schoolboys having a laugh at your expense.
- Netiquette: Don't 'do naked' unless invited.
- Upside: you get to see the people you're flirting with
- Downside: Other people get to see you.
Know your net-lingo:
A/S/L - Age/Sex/Location?
afk - away from the keyboard
brb - be right back
btw - by the way
cy/cya - See you later
imho - In my humble opinion
k - OK
lol - laugh out loud
rofl - Roll on floor laughing
pml - Piss myself laughing
Moving on and meeting up
Before you meet up, you should aim to have several chats on the phone first, to get to know each other better and work out whether you really do want to see the real them.
If you decide to meet the person in real life make sure you do so safely. Tell someone where you are going and arrange to call them at a certain point - or better still, take someone along with you. Always meet somewhere public and have an excuse up your sleeve in case you want to make a quick dash for it.
Yay! We hit it off
Good for you, but now you'll have to find a way of making it work. If you both live locally, treat it as a normal new relationship and arrange another date. If it's going to be a long-distance thing work out how often you can see each other (think in terms of your finances and the practicalities of it all). Long-distance relationships can work but they aren't easy. You both have to keep up the effort and phone each other in between meets. If it becomes too much hassle or too serious when you just want to have fun, be honest with the other person, don't waste each other's time and money.
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