Drive your woman wild

It's something most blokes want to brag about, but how do you get it right? Reluctantly, we get under the covers in search of the truth.

Take your time

Sex isn't a race. Not for women, anyway. The climax may come at the end for men, but for women there's a whole lot of pleasure to be had from making the most of the course. So if you really want to impress, slow down. Shift a gear. Think tortoise not hare.

Communicate

Getting physically intimate won't guarantee good sex. Emotional intimacy will really make it worthwhile for you both. Share your desires and fantasies, and be honest about the things that turn you off and on. The more you discuss sex, the better it has to be for the two of you. Above all, listen to her.

Be responsive

Guys, this may come as a shock, but most women don't relish the prospect of their man going at it like a jackhammer. Your penis may be the most sensual part of your body, but focusing on your needs and not hers is going to leave her cold, so start picking up on the way she responds and stop thinking about yourself all the time.

Don't just stop

OK, so you pop your cork and all you want to do is roll over and snore. Next time, consider the situation from her point of view. Women don't climb towards one sexual summit, only to slide down to base camp and bed. Her's is a journey over more peaks, providing you're there to come along for the ride. If you really want to be a master lover, however, don't regard an orgasm as the ultimate goal for either of you. Aim to pleasure your partner, and she's more likely to respond in kind.

The big 'O'

Of course, that's not to say that a woman doesn't want to orgasm - just that she doesn't always need to. Very few women orgasm solely as a result of the penis penetrating the vagina, so that means lots more yummy foreplay as it's more likely to happen through stimulation (touching/rubbing/kissing) of the clitoris - the highly sensitive bump located at the top of the vaginal lips.

Faking it

Women do fake - sad but true. Maybe they're not in the mood, so want it over faster, or maybe they are too shy to tell you it's all wrong, but whatever the reason they are cheating themselves and you. There are lots of physical signs of a real orgasm, but the best sex and relationships are based on being open. Share your desires and fantasies, and be honest about the things that turn you on and off. The more you discuss sex, the better it has to be for the two of you. Above all, listen to her.

What's she like?

Does she know what she likes? It can be pretty hard for you to get it right if she doesn't know what works for her. While experimentation can be fun, she should be doing a little exploration of her own, that way she can show you what to do.

If all else fails

While a lack of orgasms is often down to inhibitions and the wrong techniques, there can be more serious reasons behind it, such as ill health or psychological issues. In this case get her to have a chat with her GP to ask for a referral to see a specialist.