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I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a couple of months now, but I'm never satisfied. It doesn't last very long and then he's done. I still haven't had an orgasm with him and it's really doing my head in. Can you give me some tips or on what we can try?
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One of the first things you could think about doing is ensuring you and your partner are communicating effectively. Not only is this the key to a healthy sex life, it's the key to a healthy relationship full stop.
But in order to know what it is you want to communicate to your partner you need to think about what you want yourself. To help him bring you to orgasm you need to consider how comfortable you are with your own body, how well you know it and what it is that turns you on. If you're aware of these things then you can talk to your guy about it and maybe even make talking about it part of your foreplay. You can let him know you need more time and giving him tips on how to please you could distract him from only concentrating on his own orgasm.
If you aren't so sure what you like or are not entirely in touch with your body then you might want to consider getting in touch with it. Literally.
Masturbation is a natural process most of us indulge in (if we're honest about it) and although it can be awkward to talk or think about, it's a brilliant way to give yourself pleasure and learn about your body at the same time. By experimenting with yourself you can gain the confidence to start talking to your boyfriend about what you like. This might encourage him to do the same, the result being, a more relaxed and open sex life.
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